There are people who spend their whole lives conforming to the ideals of other people, while there are some people who want to develop their own style. If you are the latter type, then it does not mean that you have a large ego or that you are vain about yourself. If you have decided to develop your own style, then it is the sign of a confident personality. You are striving to be unique; there is no harm in that.
The first thing you have to do when you aspire to develop your own style is to have a full realization of your limitations and capabilities. You cannot be unique unless and until you know what you can and cannot do. Think about what you are good at, and think about the things you are not good at.
Work on Your Strengths
Always try to work to your strengths. If there is something you can do well, try and see how you can improve at it. This is what will characterize your personality. People will remember you for your talent. Aren’t all famous personalities of the world remarkable because of at least one talent? Find out what your special forte is, and work on it.
This does not mean you should ignore your weaknesses completely. Try to improve on that too. A person with an impressive personality is one who can manage various tasks, but excel at least one.
Listen to Your ‘Inner Voice’
It is also important that you listen to your ‘inner voice’. When you are planning on something, ask yourself—What does my inner voice say? And act accordingly. If you have firm conviction in a particular thing, you should probably do just that. There will be several detractors on the way, but you should only heed the advice of people who have noble intentions for you. Don’t be obstinate, but know what’s good for you and act accordingly. Be confident in yourself and your ideas.
Do what You Believe
Don’t blindly copy others. Don’t try to do something just because someone else is doing it. Do what you believe in, even though other people do not recommend it. If you are firmly convinced that it is good for you, then it probably is. Weigh the pros and cons of anything that you take up, and when you take something up, commit yourself to it.
Have Faith in Yourself
Developing your own style is not something that you can do overnight. Your whole life is a process of developing a personality or a style. Everything that you do will affect it. Integrity and credibility are the basic survival tools in developing your own style. So, you need to be careful about everything that you do and, above all, have faith in yourself.